We often assume that communication with our spouse and other family members should be easy and effortless because we have spent a lot of time with them. But we can be surprised and annoyed when they misunderstand what we’re talking about. Blaming the other person is tempting, but the problem also begins with us. It may be difficult to eliminate communication “bad habits” completely, but being aware of our behaviour can help.

Defining awesome,

“Awesome” is almost always linked to strong positive emotions. A simple definition of awesome: inspiring awe or admiration, or wonder.

Imagine you are walking through the woods and come across a bear. Immediately, your body recognizes this as potential threat and activates the nervous system, releasing a rush of stress hormones, cortisol and epinephrine (adrenalin). These hormones are what give us extra strength, energy, focus and speed to keep ourselves safe from the threat. The heart pounds faster, muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breath quickens, and senses become sharper as the body prepares to defend/ protect itself against the threat. This is the fight /flight response. This is natural and good when facing a physical threat because it is self-protective.

After the bear walks away and the threat is gone, the body seeks to regain a sense of calm. You may notice your body starts to shake. This is an involuntary response that moves the stress hormones from the nervous system so they can be processed and expelled from the body. Slowly, the shaking decreases and the body begins to return to its homeostatic state. Involuntary shaking is most common following sudden, high intensity events such as encountering the bear, a car accident (or near miss), assaults, etc.

I’m Becky Hills, the proud owner of Floodgate Coaching, Counselling and Consulting. I look forward to sharing my story. I hope that you will enjoy getting to know me better.

When I started my private coaching/counselling practice, I was clear on my goal. “To support others in become their best selves, to embrace their awesomeness, so that they can live authentically with meaning and purpose and break through the barriers that are keeping them from living in the fullness of their potential.” I want to see people be able to confidently stand and say “I am Awesome!” and I want them to mean it, to know it, to embody it. I want everyone who works with me to feel it to the deepest part of their soul.

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